I work in a business that is obsessively driven by the approval of others. From outfit photos to traffic statistics to fan pages and “friends,” we all want to know that what we’re doing is seen and that you, to quote Sally Field’s Oscar acceptance speech from the 80’s, you LIKE us, you REALLY LIKE us.
The funny thing about all this is that, honestly, it’s really none of our business what you think of us. Actually, it’s really nobody’s business what ANYONE thinks of ANYONE. Period.
It’s totally true. You could spend all day trying to figure out if such-and-such likes you, if your ex-boyfriend hates your guts because you broke up with him via text, whether the salesperson this morning thinks you’re an airhead or the waiter thinks you’re a bitch because you only tipped 15 percent. You can literally become obsessed with who’s saying what about you and what people might be talking about you behind your back or if you’ll get a bazillion re-pins on Pinterest.
But really, it’s none of our business what others think of us.
I know this goes against Girl Code in the biggest way. Whole brunches, dinner and cocktails are planned around The Opinions of Others. The restaurant industry might collapse entirely on weekends if there weren’t gossipy conversations about someone talking about someone else. Whole threads of texts, comments on blogs and YouTube will suddenly seem useless…
But it’s true. It’s none of your business what other people think about you.
But they’re talking about ME, you’re saying. Of COURSE it’s your business. Nope, it’s not. Because at the end of the day, it’s their opinion and they will THINK and DO whatever they want. Why not be concerned with something you can control, like what fabulous glittery shoe you’ll be wearing tomorrow or what amazing excursion you’ll be taking with your tax return? Let them think what they want. If they want to love you, let them love you. If they want to hate, let them hate.
Do not rise and fall on what people are/are not saying about you. It’s a house of cards waiting to fall. You cannot build a foundation of self-respect, a future for yourself of any substance, on something so mercurial as the opinions of others. Your mistakes, your successes – it doesn’t matter. People will SAY what they want. You, regardless, should focus on DOING what YOU want.
At the end of the day, when you’re leading a rich, full life, you’re too damned busy to be concerned with what other people think. You don’t really have time to care what they say, right?
Anyway, it’s really none of your business what other people think of you. 🙂