“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ― C. JoyBell C.
For the longest time, I have had this horrible, horrible affliction…a crippling disorder that causes all sorts of other maladies that can be so severe you can’t leave the house. It’s called Caring What Other People Think. I believe scientists might refer to it as giveadamnitis, but I’m not as familiar with it’s Latin name. I just got rid of it recently and I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.
Sufferers from Caring What Other People Think can tell you harrowing tales of fear, anxiety, crying jags and misery that can be so severe that it brings on depression, inertia, panic attacks, paralyzing fear and eventually all sorts of other phobias and disorders. It can ruin marriages, relationships, friendships, work places and incredibly important things like The Present and The Future. Caring What Other People Think can lead to a lifetime of misery, fear and an all-over flu-like feeling that you simply suck at life.
It’s no way to live. The good news is, as harrowing as this disease can be, there is absolutely a cure: stop caring so much what other people think.
No, really. Of all the other maladies in the world, this one is BY FAR the easiest one to cure. It takes time, but through careful consideration of yourself and what you want out of life, you will realize that simply letting go of the noise that tells you about the importance of the opinions of others will give you the freedom to experience what the disease robs you of every day: freedom and unmitigated joy. As my beloved George Michael once said, “I think there’s something you should know/I think it’s time I stopped the show/There’s something deep inside of me/There’s someone I forgot to be.”
It doesn’t matter who started it. It doesn’t matter if the seed for this Disease to Please came from nature or nurture. The only thing that matters is that you catch it, recognize it and start curing it immediately. It’s time to let your freak flag fly and stop giving such a big whoop what other people think. It’s EXHAUSTING to have to try and be someone else for others to like you. Let them see the real you. If they don’t like it, find some other people who do.
If you suffer from Caring What Others Think, then I have your first step toward recovering. Do something LOUD. Start with a crazy lip color. Work your way to mixing prints. Let yourself out to play.
Because one of the best things about life is finding your “thing” – what makes you feel alive – and doing it to death. Don’t let anything, anyone or any circumstances define you. Define yourself. Can I get an “amen?”