I’m coming back from a gorgeous eight days with my mom in West Virginia, which involved a lot of frank talk as time with parents often does. My mother is my best friend and the mirror from which I can’t hide, so when I came home essentially dragging myself across the finish line, she was pretty much bound to call the question. Because no matter how much you think you have it together, when your parent looks you in the face and asks “The Question,” it causes a heap of crying, tears and trying to get the words out fast enough.
The Question is: “Is everything alright?”
Truth told? I came to the end of this year with a greater understanding of my limits on a whole lot of things, not the least of which is that I am only one person, there are only so many hours in a day, and I am entirely covered in too many time and energy sucking activities.
So, tomorrow is New Year’s Day, and I think I’ve come across a good list of resolutions that I feel good about putting into place when we all hit the reset button at midnight:
Also, because I’m a writer, I made an anagram out of the word “Balance.” I’m ridin’ nerdy right now, so bear with me:
B stands for “Believe you can do it” – If I’m being completely honest, my attempts to relaunch Fashion.Style.Beauty earlier this year fell flat. I came armed with great ideas but without a plan for execution, and when no one really jumped on, I flinched and went under the porch. But I really think that, with consistent delivery of good ideas that I have something of value to say, amazing people I want you to meet, and a message that’s meant to inspire you to do something great. So, I’m going into tomorrow believing that I can do that.
A stands for “Allow time for wonder” – I’ve realized that I couldn’t tell you what happened to me this year. I’ve been so head’s down delivering things for clients and trying to keep the site going that I can’t name any of the experiences I’ve had. That’s just silly. What’s the point of creating the life you want if you can’t enjoy it? I plan on taking more photos and documenting this year, because time is fleeting and one of these days I won’t want to leave the earth thinking, “I wished I worked more.”
L stands for “Live for experiences, not stuff” – Ok, so here’s a big confession: I bought a lot of clothes trying to compete with other fashion bloggers. There, I said it. You know what happened? My closet got bigger. As someone who believes so passionately about being true to who you are, I can’t believe I let myself get sucked into the “More Stuff” game, the one where the person who dies with the most toys wins. I’m out; I only want things around me that bring me joy. The closet cleaning project begins in earnest tomorrow afternoon, and I can’t wait to see how much stuff I can donate or sell. This year needs to be about experiences, about living and enjoying life. If I see or experience something I love, I’ll feature it, but I think it’s time to make my own rules and get out there and live life my way.
A stands for “Avoid negativity” – I was on a business trip this year with someone who complained from the minute she got to the airport here in New York through the minute we returned to New York. That level of negativity is exhausting. New York can make you really hard, but come on. There are people around all of us who just want to suck all the air out of the room and this is the year I give them all the space they want. No more of that, please. Also, I’m DONE with the phrase “Basic Bitch.” Women, we have ENOUGH problems to worry about right now without creating classifications among ourselves to ostracize members of our own community. In the end, we’re all special snowflakes and we’re also all pretty much the same. Cut it out. Now.
N stands for “New people, new experiences” – One of the big goals is to expand my network and try new things. Through “How She Does It” and “Fitspiration,” I hope to introduce you to the new people, exercise classes and inspiring women who make me want to get up in the morning. My goal is to try one new class a week (thank you, ClassPass) and to interview one new woman a week. Between those two activities, I think my horizons will be quite broad by the end of the year. I also want to travel more, so hopefully you’ll join me on those trips via the blog.
C stands for “Create more beauty” – I love playing with my camera so much, but I went to college on a Fine Arts scholarship. I have an Art degree I’m not using right now, and I want to figure out how to make that part of my life. When I went into corporate America, I put my paints and pencils away, and now I want them back. We’ll see how that goes.
E stands for “End the Endings For New Beginnings” – I have quite a few unfinished projects. I have 18 lbs left to lose. I have a manuscript sitting on my laptop that isn’t done. I have a yoga practice that needs to be tended and a tremendous amount of conversations that need to be had. Life can’t move forward as long as you have unfinished business, so it’s time to tie up loose ends and get on with life.
Thank you for listening to my musings about a new year. I feel like it’s time to get back to myself and be better than I’ve ever been. I hope you’ll join me and share some of your own resolutions. Let’s make 2015 a year to remember.
Happy New Year!