Winter is a dark time and it made me think about how hard it is to remain positive and happy this time of year. I consider myself to be a relatively positive person. Any of you little spark plugs out there know exactly what I’m talking about. We’re these little sources of light, like little candles hopping around out there, making life better and feeling pretty happy about things.
Except at certain points in our life, we’re really drained and tired. It seems like our lives are filled with drama and we want to shine but we can’t because circumstances are dragging us down. Our jobs are tedious, our friends are constantly angry with us for some reason, we’re always “in a fight” with somebody, and our love relationships (if we’re in one) are really co-dependent and draining.
Eckhart Tolle in his book The Power Of Now (2004, New World Library) explains that it’s most likely unresolved anger, that somehow those of us have some issues that we’re carrying around and theytend to attract people who are generally angry and dark by nature. Consider this thought for a moment. I know I did last year and it was absolutely accurate. So, I decided to go into the scary dark places and start confronting some nasty stuff. Just as you would (and should be) clean(ing) out your medicine cabinets, makeup bag, handbag and closet, you will from time to time need to do an inventory to make sure everything is working the way it should in your life and the people with which you surround yourself.
By daring to address the issues that I’d been hiding in my own dark corners, I realized that the monsters I was fearing weren’t really as big and bad as I thought they were and that moments of discomfort in cleaning up my messes were brief at best. In short, it’s just not as bad as you think it is, so stop procrastinating and do it. You’ll never regret it.
My life as of right now is completely different and by comparison infinitely better. The people in my life are other light, happy individuals and I tend to attract more positive energy than negative. I’m not trying to blow sunshine up anyone’s “dark spaces” but honestly, give that overhaul of all things that aren’t working for you anymore a try.
You deserve to live a life filled with light and only the things that make you happy. Curate your life as you would your closet: determine what suits you and then only surround yourself with those people, things and experiences to the best of your ability. Your life is worth this simple exercise, this investment in your well being.
Be a light person. Make your life like a room full of candles that simply glitters and shines. Try to only surround yourself with other sources of light so that you can be as bright and as happy as you want to be. You deserve to be happy.