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Kristin Booker • March 6, 2013

Thoughts From The Meditation Room: Give A Little Less of Yourself

Sometimes, when I sit in silence, I come up with some thoughts that I think are pretty great and I hope that they’ll inspire you to do something amazing for yourself. This one came to me this morning in savasana at Core Fusion.

Sometimes, I'm just over it. Except my hair, which actually looks pretty rad today.

Sometimes, I’m just over it. Except my hair, which actually looks pretty rad today.

This morning had me feeling a little overwhelmed. I think a lot of us feel that way, that moment where you feel stretched to the limit and you can’t do not one more thing for one more person. I was racing around as I do every morning, trying to meet deadlines and satisfy the thousand needs that come in through my inbox every day while keeping up a diet and exercise schedule and making all these commitments I’m supposed to meet and…

Well, a person came to mind: Janis Joplin. As in, the song “Piece of My Heart” came flooding through my head…

Now, let me be clear about this: I love me some Janis, but ending up dead because I gave myself away is not the way I want my story to end. At the end of the day, it’s occurred to me that giving a little LESS might be in order.

As women, we feel compelled to meet the needs of those who need us. We have work needs, family needs, relationship needs, tax and financial needs, and then come our own needs. You’ve heard the whole phrase “Put your own mask on first.” Honestly, we all nod our heads and say “Hell yeah!” but how many of us actually DO it?

And so, I’ve realized that I am in direct control of how much I give away and how much I have left. No one is holding me at gunpoint to do the things I do. As a matter of fact, I imagine that things would be quite amazing and even better if I did less because then I could do more things really well. Like many of us, the word “no” is something I have to get better at saying.

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And so, I’m going to give a little less. No one will suffer if I take more than 10 minutes to eat or if I go see a movie on weekends. If the bath is longer than 20-30 minutes, the house will not catch on fire. And maybe, just maybe, I’ll be in better shape to do what I really want to do, instead of this constant stress and fear of “bad things happening” if I don’t do everything everyone wants me to do.

It’s time to put my mask on first. It’s time to take a step back and give just a little bit less.

How about you?


2 Responses to Thoughts From The Meditation Room: Give A Little Less of Yourself

  1. Jamie says:

    I found your blog a few days ago and I am totally now obsessed with it and you. Though I’m still in my early 20s your blog encompasses an array of wisdom for all! Thank you so much for radiating so much positivity through your work, you’re an amazing writer xo

  2. Great post, Kristin. I think more women need to realize that “no” is not a dirty word and that setting boundaries (with family, friends and colleagues) is a good thing. I’ve found it gets easier the more you practice it. Most women are raised to put others first, but that doesn’t usually serve us well in the long run. I’m not advocating selfishness but, rather, self-love. Taking time for yourself and learning not to say yes when you mean no is part of that. Good luck on your journey!

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